Join Mindy, Avery, Lexi and Meredith—our Tri Deltas in the TV Room, the place where they discuss what’s happening in Tri Delta, chat about current events, share their unique perspectives about life and motivate each other to reach greater heights.
In this episode, our hosts share key moments from our recent Collegiate Leadership Conference (CLC), where more than 600 Tri Delta collegians came together for leadership development, networking and fun. Hear about the touching moments of the weekend that left a lasting impact on them, and learn more about butterfly goals, shared with our attendees by CLC keynote speaker (and former podcast guest) Tara Renze.
We learn more about our hosts as Lexi puts the other three in the hotseat, followed by WNBA draft talk, an update on “The Bachelor” franchise and a serious moment about the impact of social media on our daily lives. This episode promises to motivate, entertain and empower you. Grab a cup of coffee and join our Tri Deltas in the TV Room!
Hello, Tri Deltas and welcome back to another episode of Tri Deltas in the TV Room. I'm Mindy Tucker and I get the pleasure of serving as the interim CEO of Tri Deltas and I'm so glad to be back with these ladies in the TV Room again. We always have a great time catching up and there's always good topics on the agenda. today is no different. I'm joined just for your reminder by Lexi Leggs, our program development specialist, who we introduced you to on our last TV room episode. Put her in the hot seat and learn a little bit about her. She may do the same thing to us today, I think. And then back with us again is Meredith Davies, our philanthropy specialist, and Avery Sadler, our event production specialist. I love getting these ladies together and talking. We all come at things from such different Tri Delta experiences and different life experiences, and I just really enjoy talking topics with them, and I hope you do too. So last episode, we talked about Valentine's Day, we talked about the Super Bowl, and all things, Taylor and Beyonce, we had new music from Beyonce, we're still living in the glow of that, as that's been coming out. I think I shared an update on my family ski trip. There was a lot of topics last time. So I know we put you on the hot seat last time, Lexi. I think you're going to turn the tables on us today.
Absolutely. Yes. I think it's about time that we get to learn a little bit about you all. So rapid fire. I'm just going to call your name and ask a question and share a little bit about yourself. So Avery, are you a morning person or a night out?
I don't think so. I'm either I like to be awake during the normal hours of the day I like to wake up at a normal time I like to go to bed at a normal time I don't know why why you have to be an extremist I would say if I'm either I would I prefer getting up earlier than staying up later but I'm not why wake up at like 7 and I go to bed at 10:30 I think that's pretty pretty regular.
Yeah, I would say that's pretty regular for a young working professional. Absolutely. Meredith, do you prefer audio books or reading?
Reading, I'm not good about it, but I'm trying to be better. Reading by the pool.
Specifically by the pool, absolutely. Mindy, what's the most adventurous thing you've ever done?
Oh, goodness, the most adventurous thing. I'm just gonna pull a recent one. We took, I took the kids to Austin and we've become huge Formula One fans and we biked the F1 track. And I didn't think it was that adventurous until I got there and saw the first hill, which was one of those hills like you bike up, but you're like, the pedals are moving, but your bike is not moving because it was such an incline. And I had to walk the second part of that hill, by the way. But that was a pretty, it was like a, big adventure that I didn't quite realize I was getting into until it turned into this, like, oh, we have to rent bikes, and we have to get over there, and then we have to bike up this hill. And so it was very cool and so fun, but it turned into quite an adventure that day.
Yeah, absolutely. That's adventurous, biking up a hill for sure. Avery, what is your favorite comfort food?
It is Thai, specifically, from Malai. I will order it on my phone. It's ready in approximately 11 minutes and it is walking distance from my apartment. I get it after every time I travel or it's late and I love it, it's so good.
Yeah, Malai Kitchen is one of my faves. You just spoke to my heart. I always go there for their Thai iced tea too, so.
Oh, it's so good.
So good, yes. Meredith, what's your dream vacation destination?
Oh, that's really hard for me. I've got three big ones right now. Greece, Belize, and Fiji. Don't know which order they're going to come in. I will take whichever one comes first, but always something by the water where I can see new creatures. Creatures are really important to me. So things I need to see, a loggerhead sea turtle, manta ray, whale shark. So let us know what they look like take some pictures. Don't get too close unless you're with a professional, of course. Mindy, if you could instantly become an expert at any subject, what would it be?
I think that it would be history. Lately I've found that like people are like, something happens in the world and someone's like, oh, it's just like such and such when this happened. And I just so wish I immediately had that whole filter where I could process what's happening today with like everything that's happened in history and like how many times it's happened before and what happened the last time this happened. And, you know, whether it's current events or whatever, I just, it's so interesting to be able to like look back at it. see where we've come from. And if this is something weird that's never happened before, or what, you know, what in history can inform us. So I wish I had more of a background in history.
I agree. You definitely can learn a lot from your past for sure. Um, Avery, what is a hidden talent that you have?
I hate this question so much because I feel like I'm a jack of all trades master of none sort of thing. Like I'm mediocre at a lot of things but um I actually think I say this maybe I'm wrong but I'm pretty sure I can play music by ear. I grew up playing the piano and guitar and I haven't um like studied it or I haven't been trained in a while but I can like sit back down and play things by ear without sheet music or anything. So I think that's cool.
That is very cool and not mediocre at all from somebody who is trained in music, especially with an instrument that is a skill. So definitely brag on that one. Meredith, if you could swap lives with anybody for a day, who would it be? I think I know this one.
Same thing. Can't pick just one. I can't pick one. Okay, so the obvious answer is Taylor Swift. I need to know what she's doing in a day, but I want to be, I want my 24 hours to like start with a show time and with the next show because I want to know what it's like to be her in between shows. Then Katie Ledecky because I want to know what it's like to be the fastest swimmer in the world and train like her. I want to know what that's like. And then the third is not really a person, but like I want to know what it's like to be a really smart, cool woman who works in the FBI, because I really want to know what it's like to work in the FBI.
Those are all really cool.
Okay, I like that. Okay, Mindy, what's something that's on your bucket list?
This is a hard one. I mean, I think I have things on my bucket list, so what would be interesting enough to share? You know, I think like my crazy one is like, this will never happen, but I really want to sing backup for Eric Church in a concert. Like, okay, he's got these really cool songs and he's got this like amazing backup singer who just retired and I was like, oh, does she need a replacement?
It's your time.
Yeah, Paula Cotton is her name. He like really, he does these songs where he really like, it's not just like a backup. backup singer but somebody who gets to be like part like the song wouldn't be the same without this person in his band. And so like that's definitely one of my like if I could just for one day be Eric Church's backup singer I would do that in part B.
Yeah it sounds like now is your time so you gotta get yourself out there.
I'm like where do you apply for that job? I love it.
We're good to learn a lot about y 'all. Thank you. you so much for playing along. I know some of those questions were out of the ordinary, but it's cool to learn about you all too.
That's what makes them great and fun. It's out of the ordinary. How else would we be talking about Katie Ledecky and playing music by ear and being Eric Church's backup singer?
I think it's awesome. Thank you, Lexi, for turning the tables and putting us in the hot seat. So I think we're all a little exhausted at the moment because we have just emerged from CLC weekend and CLC is our collegiate leadership conference. For those of you who are listening, we bring about 600 collegiate women, the five top officers from each chapter into a conference and we train them over the weekend for their officer-specific roles, but also give them some leadership development training and just time to get started. So they can meet other people who hold their same offices or go to a have a chapter about the same size as theirs and it's so fun to watch throughout the weekend how they grow and how they open up and how they make new friends and support each other and it's just you you come out so exhausted which we all are because it was just three days straight of going going going but always so inspired by these women who just feel good about the next generation of Tri Delta when you have a chance to be around these women.
So I love it. I know all of you love it. We just, it's just such a great time to be there. So everybody here had a huge role in the weekend. I wanna know what your favorite part of the weekend was.
I feel like it's hard for me to pick just one, but if I would say I definitely love the presentation of the collegiate chapter award winners, specifically because it brings the element of surprise there. The way that the timeline works out typically the outgoing officers are the ones that apply. So the women that are attending CLC live don't know that their officers may have even applied or that they're eligible for an award. So to speak, so I literally saw women jumping out of their seats and flinging through the air when they were called, and that was really magical. So so much to choose from, but that one was really special.
Yeah, it was fun to, you know, we gave a Haller Award this year, which is the highest collegiate honor. It doesn't get awarded every year. You really have to have somebody that's really earned it and and really met those expectations. It was cool to see that presented to the the officers from the University of Oklahoma this year.
I love it.
Lexi plays a huge part in the awards process, but I also got to piggyback off of all of her work and kind of put it all together for the scripts and the announcements. And when I was reading the Sarah Ida Shaw award winner’s application and nomination before I had like written it into the script, I, I got teary-eyed. I'm not even kidding. I had no idea who this person was, didn't know what she looked like, did not know her name before, but I started just reading her application and reading the things that people were saying about her and was sitting at my desk and like actually had tears in my eyes because of how incredible the people around her, like how highly they thought of her. It was just so, it was so cool. So it's it's really cool to see the great work that these people are doing but also how other people acknowledge that and recognize that and like want to lift each other up so.
Yes, and that is Callie Heckman, in case you all were wondering fromAlpha Rho Chapter, Georgia. So shout out to Callie.
Right, I thought about you.
Okay, I really loved, I got to facilitate BodyImage3D for Kenyon, our chapter that was initiated and installed during CLC weekend. So that was a really special moment for me to feel like I was a part of their journey and spent a lot of time in that curriculum. We know that our BodyImage3D program was part of the reason why they wanted Tri Delta to come to Kenyon. So to be able to facilitate that for them and be a part of, you know, what they wanted to get out of their Tri Delta experience really meant a lot to me. And then really other heartwarming piece was that I met my great, great, great, grand little Lydia, who just so happened to be there. I had dinner with my sisters from Rhodes and they were like, who do you know that we know? And so I said that Katie Kanzler was my great grand little and one of them jumped out of her seat and said, she's my family and we got up and we hugged and then I saw them a couple other times in the weekend and it was just a very cool moment of trying out to working in mysterious ways.
You know I had never even thought of that but the like the legacy of like our legacy in our chapter is still there with these women who are showing up this CLC weekend.
I had never thought about that until you mentioned that story over the weekend. We have we have connections with these women we just don't think about that. And fun for you to, like, there you are. You got to give her a hug. I think that's so, just so great and fun. I love that for you. Now it makes me want to go find my whole lineage down.
You're still there. You're still there.
Well, my, you know, one of the things I really enjoyed other than just all the things you guys talked about and just the, you know, getting able to meet these women in person, be with these women.
The speaker, Tara Renze, was so good. Not only did she speak, she led that panel where we had collegiate women talking about their experiences and how they've grown and how they've developed and how they've stepped into fearful spaces, which I just love that sort of peer to peer, you know, got women in the audience who are about to take on these officer positions and then these women who've been there up on the stage talking about how they stepped into fear and did things that were outside their comfort zone.
I just love that.
One of the things Tara asked them, and now it's gonna shift into hot topics here, I'm gonna ask all of you guys, is what their butterfly goal was. And so a butterfly goal is just something big that you have thought about doing, you've always wanted to do. Her butterfly goal was wanting to be on a game show, that she showed that hilarious story of totally just messing it up for $50 ,000. I think it was what it cost her $25,000 on the $125,000 Pyramid. Having Michael Strayhan make fun of her. Um, she had a great comeback though. She won the money in the end. Um, and when I did the podcast with her, I actually talked to her about my weird butterfly goal that developed a couple of years ago when I decided I was going to be what I thought was an Olympic sprinter again. And I, um, did actually run the 50 meter in the senior games here in San Diego. I would end it quite differently as I ended up tearing my hamstring off and had surgery and took six months to recover from this. But I'm still glad I did it. It was a huge like, for me, it was like a huge thing. I just like, and later in life, realized I could still run fast and like maybe I can do this. And I'm in it, my friend saw this crazy and maybe they were right cause I did get hurt.
But, but still would do it again. Like it was just so cool to step out in faith and something like that. Just like I can do this. I'm gonna push the envelope. I'm gonna go a little further than everybody thinks I should because I know I can do this. So I'm wondering what y 'all's butterfly goals are if you have one.
I have had the same one my whole life and now every time I think about it I'm like I should. quit everything and pursue this but it's expensive um I have always wanted to be a pilot maybe not always but in my like later high school years until today so I feel this way um my dad is a pilot and I traveled so much growing up like I love it whenever I felt felt crazy in high school and people were like if you had to get a tattoo what would you get? I always said an airplane because I just saw that scroll. Never did it. I don't know if I ever will get a tattoo but I still think if I did that would be the one that I would get. And now our office here in North Dallas Addison sits directly across the street from a private airport and so all day I just look at these people at not commercial airplanes but people in little tiny private planes I'm like that could be me out there one day so that is definitely mine
I don't I feel like I'm losing so many brain cells so that you need to be a pilot you know you are still young, girl
I know I'm still young but it's okay it's like 10 000 well that's I I'm probably even being naive saying that, but I remember reading something that it's like a $10 ,000 starting cost.
Yeah.
I don't know if I can get a scholarship or something.
Yeah.
Maybe that's fine.
I love it. You should do it. Lifelong dream. You're right by the airport. You just hop over after work and take your class.
I actually could, and I met someone one time who she actually was older than me. I think she was like in her 40s or something. And she had told me that she goes, you know, I've always wanted to be a pilot and I just signed up you can do this like, um, co-pilot class thing and you sit with someone and you, I don't think she was really becoming a pilot, but she got to fly a plane, you know, and that was cool. And so if I at least if I don't become a pilot, I need to do that one day.
Yes. We're here for it.
You should do it.
Yeah.
Thank you everyone. Maybe I will. Definitely.
All right, you two. Butterfly goal. Meredith, you want to go? Okay.
Okay. Minus to travel the world by boat. By sailboat. I would first like to buy sailboat. Yes. A little like a 50-foot catamaran sailboat with like a couple people. I first would like to cross the Atlantic Ocean from Africa. Um and then would like to do the rest of it. I'd love to go through the Panama Canal. Love to just see as much of the world as I can, which goes back to my love of sailboating. I just want to see I want to see animals I want to see places I want to see natural beauty I follow this couple on YouTube and they sail around the world as they're that's just their life that they live on a boat full -time and you know after you do that and life but boat life yeah.
Yes, yes, but, you know, just it's every time I think about it, I'm like, and then something breaks and then I'm in that movie where Shailene Woodley, like, oh, is it, I can't even watch it. I don't even know what actually happens, but one of them dies, like this is what would happen if I tried to do something like this. So I need to
Let's be more optimistic about your butterfly goal.
But that's crazy, a sailboat, that's, yeah. With a motor, like it has a motor, but a little more advanced than you, like just, you know, turn of the sail.
Yeah, okay, cool. All right, Lexi, can you one up that?
No, but mine is still pretty lofty for me and I think that's all that matters. All right. I think that my butterfly goal would be to be a keynote speaker at a conference, specifically a women's leadership conference. Yeah, right? I feel like that is right up my alley.
You're like halfway there, 'cause you were our emcee all weekend at CLC.
Yes, yes, and I don't think that I would have put myself out there unless Avery put me out there and suggested that I do it, so I always give that credit back to you, so thank you for that. But I think just this weekend kind of inspired me to see myself in that role. I kind of always done it, especially because I think my first ever leadership conference was CLC. And the way that I felt after hearing keynote speakers feeling so empowered, feeling so encouraged and confident and capable after them, I would love to be able to do that for someone else. I still don't know exactly what I'm going to talk about yet but... but I've got time, so we'll get up there, collect some data, do some research, figure out what's relevant for the working woman and a woman leader and go from there.
You do have time. I can see all three of you achieving your butterfly goal. I just wanna say that.
Thank you.
I think, and you know what the other thing is, 'cause you were talking about Avery sort of putting you into position. you into that, Lexi. I think I've heard so many people on the podcast tell the story of, I didn't really think I could do this or see myself there, but then my sorority sister pushed me into it. My childhood sister said, you need to go do this. And so I think that's our role for each other so often. And these dreams, I can see you being a pilot. I can absolutely see you being a keynote speaker. I can see you on the boat. It's all gonna go well. Like that's what we do. We lift each other up and push each other along and see things in each other that we maybe don't see in ourselves.
And everyone saw it in Lexi. I remember when Avery told me that she had this awesome idea. I was like, yeah, duh. And every, you don't know this, Lexi. Well, maybe somebody else told you, but every time you got on stage, everyone in the back was like, yes, she has it. She has it. Yeah, you, it was awesome to watch you up there.
Yeah, I definitely felt all the Delta love this weekend. My cup was so full of love and encouragement from everybody. So definitely every year I say CLC is my favorite. This one this year is absolutely by far my favorite thus far. So we'll see what happens next time and how we'll top it. But this one was so good. I don't know what about it was so good.
Well, Lexi, I think you played a huge part in making it so great. But there just like every little piece of it was so good.
I don't know. I just loved it. I had such a great time. There was new light, new energy, new enthusiasm. I feel like like every year it gets better and better.
And these officers knew why they were coming. They knew what they were supposed to be doing, and they just, they all seemed really happy. It was really nice to see. And I'm going to make a pitch here because there's probably a lot of people out there feeling FOMO that they don't get to go to CLC because they're not a collegiate officer, and they may not work with each other's staff, but you can go to CLC as a facilitator, as a volunteer if you're an alumna. So, if you're hearing this and thinking, "I want to be part of all of this," watch for applications to be out for our facilitators and apply and say you want to come to CLC and be a facilitator. And anyway, that's one way to do it. I want to stay on the other side of that. If you're a collegian, and you want to be an officer, tell someone that but if you're that person's friend, like we were saying earlier, lift that person up, say empower them to go do that thing. That might be their butterfly goal to be an officer in their chapter because you, I think like you said, Mindy, we have to be able to point out each other's strengths and lift each other up because we can't do all of our butterfly goals alone or we can't do all these big things alone.
A lot of it comes from encouragement from others and support from the people around us. So there's both ends there, you could still come as an officer, depending on how old you are.
That's true. All right, who's got another hot topic?
I am curious how much or if any of you have seen anything about the WNBA draft. I am not one that keeps up with sports. I am not a sport person. I study music, but this has just been so incredible. Obviously, it's been at the forefront of social media hearing about Caitlyn Clark and Angel Reese. And Caitlyn Clark was on SNL this weekend and on the Weekend Update. And I had never seen her like all dolled up and glammed out. Normally I see her in action on the court, you know, hair in a ponytail, but handling business. And she, I heard that she did a great job.
I haven't gotten a chance to watch the clip, but I am also very excited because shamelessly Angel Reese has been drafted for the Chicago Sky. And obviously as a Chicago native just super excited to have a reason to really go out there and root for them. So I think this has been a really monumental season for college women's basketball and what that means for the WNBA moving forward is really, really inspiring and impressive.
So I'm excited to see what they do in their first years in the game. It's been really fun to watch. I did. I do follow sports. So my feed has been full of what was cool was some of them just came to support other people on their team and then they ended up getting drafted without really knowing.
Like there's so many cool little stories and how they all like showed up to support each other, which I think women do inherently as to what we do. So it was cool to see that side of it and how it's playing out.
And they're all like one, one or two people are sort of lifting all the boats, which is really amazing for these athletes. All right. I think another butterfly goal, if I had one, is if we could get Caitlyn Clark to join Tri Delta. I know she's on her way out the door. Those women can recruit her. That'd be great. Yeah. And all those coaches tell them that they can't join, and it's not true. And I wish that we helped more athletes join Tri Delta and see that there's a place for them here because they are people like me at Rhodes. I did both things and it was wonderful and it was nice to have my athlete friends and it was nice to have Tri Delta and feel like I could do something completely separate from being an athlete. But I also just wanted to say that that game Iowa who were they playing that it was the most watched game on ESPN ever.
People need need to stop being mean about women’s sports. These women are out here absolutely crushing it. Like just domination.
And I don't want to downplay their athleticism because they are all wonderfully athletic. But some of those outfits last night slayed. They look so good.
It was so different to see that like you said like so different to see them all. But they had, they took that opportunity and they ran with it and they looked so good.
Yes, they looked beautiful.
Everybody was like so tall and glamorous too. So it was such a cool show, or sight I should say, to see.
And this morning, so I've been taping podcasts this week. I had a chance to interview somebody whose name's Taylor Terry. She went to college, her mom played basketball. She went to college at Maine. That's where her mom played basketball and her mom always pushed her into basketball, but she's always been an athlete She's now the tight end on the Cincinnati Cougars, which is which is a semi-pro female football team and She's killing it, she's a mom and she's playing football part-time and I'm like girl. What are you doing? Very serious the coolest story and I which I and I she was talking about how this whole whole basketball thing and all of the attention around it has really lifted all women's sports up and she is feeling that as a member of the Cincinnati Cougars just how much more women's sports is getting attention and in fact Jason Kelce invited them just because everything has to come back to Travis Kelce and Taylor Swift at some point. Jason Kelce invited them to come in person to his podcast taping of what's it called? New Heights,
is that what it's called?
The Jason Travis podcast.
When they were in Cincinnati and they interviewed Joe Burrow but her whole team got to go and be a part of it. So anyway, just to bring everything back around to Taylor Swift. So she's like feeling the love of sort of women's sports in general.
Yeah.
Incredible. All right. Who’s got another hot topic?
Okay. Bachelor finale. I was a little annoyed that they said it was going to be the most dramatic. Never been seen before. Joey, Joey can't even watch it back because he was so devastated. But then it wasn't really like that.
But again, back to the women's empowerment, Daisy and Kelsey meeting up the morning of the proposal, riding over together the, just the conversation that they shared, everything that Daisy said to Kelsey and both of their storylines, they just seemed like such beautiful people.
They were nice to each other.
Oh, they were so kind to one another.
They were nice to each other. Then especially, I feel like we're kind throughout the entire season. Like, this wasn't a character flip switch at the end and like, oh, now we're buddy, buddy, and we're nice. Like, they had, they were both so great the entire season. And for those that don't know, his selection, the woman he felt the connection with is a Tri Delta.
What's her chapter? What chapter?
Rhodes?
Louisiana Lafayette, she is same age as me. So I think she joined Tri Delta in 2016.
And I spoke to the women from Louisiana Lafayette at CLC and they're like, yeah, we went and we found her composite and we sent a picture of it to her and she liked it. We're all just feeling a little, we're all a little excited. starstruck because she's a Tri Delta and I think she really embodied what it means to be a Tri Delta and showed the world what what Tri Delta is and who we are.
And in the last episode, they called Kelsey kind and bold and I was like, "little do you know what you just said?"
Right?
On point! On point!
Yeah, but it was a really good season and I feel like people are coming back to The Bachelor, so ball's in The Bachelor's court to make these next couple seasons good.
Joey is perfect. My fiance is getting so upset every time I said that. I was like, but he's perfect. I'm sorry, I'm never going to meet him and he is. But he really did bring back all of the great energy to The Bachelor.
Gary and his girl.
I can't.
Teresa broke up. I'm so enamored of the whole like Golden Bachelor because all the women were so nice to each other and they were they became friends. I mean, they're past being petty and they're just at an age where they know how female friendship works and how it should work. And it was so cool to see that. And then they got married and everything was just so happy and beautiful. And then I read that this week and was like, that's just way to take the air out of the balloon here. But there's redemption coming, hopefully in The Golden Bachelorette.
It's gonna be.
So that one's coming back?
Yeah I think it's um I think it's I don't know if Jen is coming first or The Golden Bachelorette.
Okay well not sure
I always count on The Bachelor to be there for the next one
Always very true. My Monday nights are typically booked you will catch me watching well anyway
Anyway, all these things I have to be educated. Yeah, this is my hot topic is that I know nothing about hot topics until somebody tells me what's going on. Because I have no social media and I love it and I haven't I still have my accounts if you want to follow me feel free Avery underscore Sadler on all platforms just want to throw that out there.
So you made an intentional decision. Like I'm out for a while. What happened. Tell us how to get a new social media.
I feel like maybe I talked about this last time because, oh, 'cause it was Valentine's Day, which was the beginning of Lent. And yes, we talked about this. I gave up social media for Lent and then I never stopped.. People make fun of me. I probably have it every day. other month, tip it like when it's not lent, but this time I don't know. I just can't do it. I, it started with I wanted to bring my screen time way down because I was on my phone, I'm gonna be honest, I'm gonna be transparent and say, there were days where my screen time was like seven plus hours. I'm just gonna confess that right here, terrible. I said if I'm doing something for, if I'm on my phone for seven hours, I could be, you know, like I could go be a pilot or I could go learn, I could go get my master’s or I could go do all this stuff, but instead I'm sitting here for seven hours on my on Instagram or TikTok or whatever and doing nothing. And so I just I feel like I really want to be more present. And I don't need, while I do think it's important, my mom would hate me if I was saying this right now, I do think it's important to understand pop culture and know what's going on in the world. Like don't be naive to what's out there. But I don't need to be worrying about my seventh grade, you know, science partners, whatever, who I still follow on Instagram. And then I'm like talking about it with my friends, like, "Oh my gosh, did you see that?" And why, like it's just a waste of my time to be so concerned with that. Now the other side of it is I don't see things that everybody else is talking about. And then I really have to be caught up. Like we were talking about TikTok trends over CLC and I know none of them because I'm way behind at this point. But Lexi asked a really good question when I brought this up earlier she said are you I'm titling it the Irish exit of social media or do we have to make it public and I think what I just don't love social media because I hate that we have to draw attention to everything that we're doing and so I feel like the announcement of it is dumb why does anybody need to know like went off and also no no one cares. Like, nobody cares if I'm going to be posting on my Instagram story or not what I'm doing. And the people who need to know will know. And I think like that's something that I have really embraced is I don't not everybody needs to know what's going on in my life. And the people who need to know will know like for example I don't know I think I told you guys this last time but I find I found out that I'm moving to Boston and I I don't think that I put that anywhere publicly but all of the people in my life who I wanted to know like it came up in a conversation where I told them hey guess what this is what I found out but little Sally Walker doesn't need to know that I'm moving to Boston, you know? I just don't need to publicize those things. So I got way too personal. This is why I don't know, I don't know any hot topics. I think this is a real dilemma for some people.
Like the problem I've always had is my work has always been tied to social media somehow. So when I was in charge of MarComms at Tri Delta, I needed to know what was up. there, needed to watch and see. So it was hard for me ever to take a break or to step off because I feel like there's some connection to my job on, and there always has been for no matter what I've done to social media. But I do think more, I've been posting less and less, I think just like kind of life updates or hey we did this or whatever because I do have friends out there that this is kind of how we keep in touch because I've lived in so many different places and we don't all talk on the phone and you know or you know text or whatever but we're all kind of seeing what's going on in each other's lives and I do like that part of it but yeah I just haven't ever found a way to while I've sort of you know shortened the amount of time I've spent on there personally, I feel like it's attached to my job, no matter where I go and what I do.
And that, I think that's the hard thing about, maybe it's not hard, it's just adapting. And I would like to clarify, I don't think social media is the worst thing ever. I just learned that it was bad for me in my life and how I was spending my time. But,oh guys, I lost my train of thought. But, yeah, okay, that's the hard thing. all I'm gonna don't give me on good what are you guys stepping off the soapbox stop it my mom has always said to um well she has two pieces of advice one is to be a little bit more in the gray and the other one is to be a little bit more mysterious and that people don't need to know everything about you and that they don't need to know every opinion you have because if you know me I'm opinionated and I have a lot I'm gonna give you a little bit of advice about a lot of things. So every time I'm like thinking about posting something on social media, I think do people need to know this about like something that I think? Do they care? Is this hurting my mystery factor? And because I have not posted any, I have not posted on the grid since the Taylor Swift concert last year. And I haven't had anything important enough to post about in... 13 months, and that's okay.
And I will say I did see Avery open Instagram to check one thing and I saw her be like, "Oh my gosh, here's something that now I'm going to worry about." So I think it is good to know.
You watched me live spiral. Yes, like I pulled something up and then if I hadn't gone and looked at that, I would not have been in an anxious state for the next however many hours that I was. So, yeah.
So, you know what? I wonder if you seeing that same thing had you not given up social media that would have caused as much angst or you would have like perceived it this way as you did, like having had the separation and then stepping in the moment and like the jarringness of it.
Yeah. wonder if it's different 'cause you've taken a break.
Probably, 'cause now I get on and I'm like, what the heck, everyone? What's this going on? (laughing) Yeah, definitely.
Like me, when I don't watch the news for a while, I try to separate myself from the news from time to time because it is so negative all the time. And every once in a while, I'll just, I'll turn the local news on or the evening news, the network news, and I'm like, that was a lot.
Right. I need some space. It's a lot after, you know, when you're not used to that incoming all the time like that. Yeah.
Yeah. I feel like for me, I mostly am just a consumer of social media, specifically TikTok. And I like, what I like about TikTok is how fast the algorithm adjusts to your interests. So anything I don't want to see, especially negativity, I'll just quickly not interest it. And it's mostly just TikTok shops and like, silly things, but I feel like as I've gotten older, I've gotten more responsibilities, obviously I work two jobs. I don't really have enough time to sit around and be on social media as much as somebody that was younger, but from a high school teacher's perspective, I can say that the negative negativity and that impact when you don't have the brain development enough to know how to separate yourself is really severe and it carries into those adulthood years and that's where I get a little nervous,
so I have kind of grateful that I, I mean, social media kind of happened when I had just gotten into high school, but Instagram wasn't big enough for me to be like, reliant on it all the time. So I think the biggest thing here is just like knowing what works for you. And like, if it is starting to take a toll on your life, if you cannot separate yourself from it, then you've got to start having conversations with yourself. And I think the biggest advice is just, be honest with yourself. And you know that this is being more negative and doing more harm for you than good. But if it's taking a toll on your life, away productivity from your life, then maybe it's time to ease out of it or set rules for yourself about when you want to be on it and how long or cleanse your friends list.
That is a big thing. I'm seeing a lot of people do is starting to cleanse their friends list and keeping all of their social media close friends essentially. But I feel I always heard from my mom everything in moderation and from this person I follow be mastered by nothing and those those are my two guiding things in making this decision. And you know the best decision for you.
e all kind of you know we all need to trust ourselves to know the best decision for us in our particular what we can handle and what we can't and not judge each other for the decisions we make for ourselves.
Yeah, exactly.
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